Ask Ms. Vicki: How Do We Get Help for His PTSD?


Dear Ms. Vicki,

I need some advice. My husband is a 1st Sgt in the marines, abd a grunt to boot. He has bad nightmares; his mood swings are violent and very scary. One minute he is great the next he wants to kill everyone in the room.

What do I do?

He is always thinking someone is plotting against him, me and my kids. He has pushed me down to the floor and I'm afraid that it might get worse. The only time he smiles is when he cleans his gun.

He has bad PTSD, he knows he has it and has been to see his PCM. They sent him to a shrink on base who can't even get him a pill or anything. He has told his shrink he thinks he has it and has also told him he can't sleep.

He's nervous and paranoid all the time, and he gets angry at nothing at all. He is drinking all the time. What do we need to do? We need help!


Very Scared

Dear Scared,

Thank you for writing to me. I am very concerned for your safety and well-being. I think you should contact Marine and Family Services (MFS) IMMEDIATELY.

You should speak to a social worker/counselor there. You can walk in and speak to someone any time during normal business hours. There is help available for your husband, but somewhere there appears to be a loose connection between him and behavioral health.

Is he still working?

I'm wondering about his job performance and what his unit commanders/leadership is noticing regarding his behavior. Well, at this point that's secondary because you will have to be the one who gets the ball rolling. MFS will definitely help you.

The behavior you are describing is very serious. Please take my swift advice and contact them. If you don't live near a base then contact Military OneSource at 800-342-9647. You can contact them 24/7. Please write me back and let me know how you are doing.


Ms. Vicki

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